Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Giant Mushy Sponge

Three weeks to go until The Hating Game ebook release and my insides are like a giant mushy sponge, sucking up every bit of doubt and fear and stubbornly hanging onto them despite multiple wringings.

I remember reading about authors with pre-publication nerves and rolling my eyes. Whatever. They're getting published! I'd think, dismissing their fears with a blithe 'I should be so lucky'.

But now that I'm here, I can safely say this is probably the most stressed out I've been. Yes, I like to worry: I got my gold star in anxiety long ago. But when it's something you've created and dreamed about, it's absolutely terrifying -- enough to even put me off chocolate (for five minutes).

Still, it's part of the process and I need to learn to embrace it. If I don't put my work out there, I won't get lovely emails and comments from early readers that have made my heart sing and helped to calm me (thank you!). I won't ever set a foot on the road to my career, if I let my worry stop me. So... as anxiety-inducing as this time is, it's also exciting. This book isn't the end (hopefully!) of my career. It's only the beginning.

What have you found most terrifying about the writing process?

(If you'd like to sign up for my Web Splash on December 1 to help with my ebook release, there's still plenty of time!)

63 comments:

  1. Let go of the fear, Talli. Relax. Enjoy.

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  2. There will be someone that doesn't like it.

    Here are some things you can do:

    Make a list and put the numbers 1 to 10 on it. Each time someone gives you a bad review, put their name on the list. If in a year you haven't filled the list, you're doing better than most famous author. If you fill the list, you're up there with the rest of the famous authors.

    Another thing I do, go to your favorite well-known authors on amazon and read their bad reviews. Even Jane Austen, Dickens, and Brontes still get bad reviews. And they're classics!

    I don't know that these things will make you feel better but they often cheer me up.

    CD

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  3. Hugs for the fear. I always think a bit of nerves is good.

    But you have no reason to be stressed. I know I'm LOVING The Hating Game. :)

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  4. Sending HUGS your way! I can't imagine all the feelings that are bumbled up inside that tummy of yours. I would say have a glass of wine, but after 2 bottles I think you'll start to feel even more rumbles in your tummy.

    All I can say is that your book was fabulous and I can't wait to be in the cheering section come release day :)

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  5. I just want to add... I'm not going to be one of those people that hates your book and not because we know each other or I'm trying to be supportive.

    It's because I'm a real sucker for these types of books. I know I like reading and writing mysteries but the first book I ever published (under a different name) was a book just like this one. I'm a sap at heart!

    CD

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  6. Clarissa, thank you! I'm so glad someone else does this - I recently started reading others writers' reviews and it made me feel calmer. I know not everyone will like it, but I feel nauseated at the thought!

    Lindsay - Thank you! See, THAT'S why I love writing! I should focus on that... :)

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  7. Clarissa - glad to hear you're a sap at heart!

    Jen - thank you! And the wine does help, to an extent!

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  8. I'm so happy for you! Ahh this is very exciting!

    Hmm, well somebody once told me something very true and wise...that there is a fear of failure not when you don't know what you want to do with your life, but when you DO know that there is a passion you want to pursue as a career. There is a fear of failure BECAUSE you love that passion, that dream so much.

    I think that's very true for me and writing.

    ~TRA

    http://xtheredangelx.blogspot.com

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  9. I used to find submitting my work scary, but as I've been doing it for several years now, I don't worry about it as much. If I get rejected I keep plucking along. Getting accepted thats a bit scary.
    Writing a brand new story for publication- that is going to be published no matter how I write it- thats scary. and even more terrifying is the publisher believed enough in my writing ability to pick me to just write something for their anthology....yeah- there's some pressure.

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  10. I'm still standing green with envy from the wings,watching and wondering how I might feel WHEN it happens to me. I know I shall be a gibbering mess... I totally get how you must be feeling - the best actors have the worst nerves. It means something (wish I knew what exactly!). *and breathe*.

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  11. Remember the rejections from agents, readers are subjective. You have those that love it and those that don't. Try to turn off the negative and bask in the positive. Stephenie Meyers gets a lot flack for her books, but she has mobs of people who love her stories.

    You can only put out your best, your heart and soul, be proud at how far you've come. Sit back and enjoy the roller coaster ride. All the ups and downs that come with it. The ups are so worth it!

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  12. Thank you, Brenda!

    I'm actually annoyed at myself for being so mushy and doubtful. Logically, I know not everyone will like it and that I should be enjoying this part of the process. but those damn voices inside my head won't stop bleating...

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  13. Debs - Yes. I need to remember to breathe! And I can't wait until I happens for you. :)

    Summer - Rejection is all part of the process, you're right. It's great that you're moving past it!

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  14. Talli - It's going to be okay! Your book has a fantastic premise and I'm sure it will be well-received. :)

    With regard to the thing about writing that makes my insides mushy is any time I present something new to my writers group. I've been with the group for a while now and feel comfortable with them, but I always get super nervous presenting material for the first time.

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  15. I'm still on the other side of the fence - fear that I'll never get an agent. Sending virtual chocolate and confidence your way!! Can't wait for the blogsplash [g]

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  16. It is only natural for Mothers to worry incessantly about their offspring. Take a deep breath, eat chocolate cupcakes and drink glasses of wine. Try to relax. You did a great job Mom of Mattie Johns! She is more than capable of standing on her own two feet. :)

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  17. What I have found disturbing about my writing is the growing sense that I will never get an agent, much less be published.

    But "impossible" is what gives birth to legends, right?

    You have talent and heart. Those two weapons in your arsenal will overcome what hurdles your novel encounters -- if it encounters any.

    I have found in my life that most of the things that have filled me with fear and doubt never even came to pass.

    And these fears and worries will add depth to your writing your next novel. Nothing is wasted in the life of a good writer -- and you are a good writer. End of story -- Roland has proclaimed it. LOL.

    No fear is so easy to bear as someone else's. Hang in there. You have friends at your back. Roland

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  18. ugh. i do not like to worry. at all. I spent years working out a system for me so i rarely have to experience any anxitey. Clearly, if i ever get to your stage, my system will be sorely challenged.

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  19. Even though nerve-wracking, still what an exciting time for you! My advice, just "Own It." Own your title as published novelist, own your book and the whole publication process. Good things always follow :)

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  20. Oh poor you what with feeling all of a dither and trying to cope with the British cold weather, things are not looking too good are they. Just think when you are rich and famous you can live in warmer climes for the winter!
    Not Italy, we have cold winters as well. I am thinking of trying your fingerless gloves idea.

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  21. right now, it's querying. I'm absolutely terrified I'll never get a full request. And this is probably my best book yet.
    Good luck Talli! I'm really looking forward to 'The Hating Game' and when it becomes available for order on amazon- pleeeease give me the right link. (I hear they refer you to used copies before new copies so now I'm always careful which I order)

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  22. Keep you eyes on the pendulum.
    You will not freak.
    You will be calm.
    You will not worry.
    You will be confident.
    You will not frown.
    You will smile.
    And breathe.

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  23. I used my first book fears to write my second. Crazy, I know, but I needed the distraction.
    Best of luck!!

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  24. You are an amazing person and your writing talents are just a portion of it. Enjoy this time!

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  25. I understand why you’re stressed. You’re putting your baby out there and if you get a bad response you’ll be crushed. But realize that your publisher thought your idea is great, that’s why they are selling your book. If it sucked, you would never have gotten a contract. I’m a very picky reader and your idea sounds great. I can’t wait to get my greedy hands on your book.

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  26. Talli,
    You have nothing to be worried about. You're a fantastic writer & you'll do well. Take your fears and turn them into confidence. Besides, you have another book to work on so that should keep you busy!

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  27. We have to have a bit of anxiety in our lives,for example walking down a dark lane by one's self,or facing a busy road.
    I wish you well with your book, I know it will be a success.

    Yvonne.

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  28. Most terrifying part of the writing process? - Starting! That's where I'm at 7,000 words in.

    I hope the nerves settle for you soon and you can enjoy what you have achieved!

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  29. drink some wine, it helps. i also got writers elbow today, its disgusting I cant stand it how do i get rid of it?

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  30. Talli, I hear you! I got a sudden wave of anxiety today. OMG. I have to write creatively to a ... DEADLINE. Freaking out a little now. Stared at the words today for quite a while watching them blur together and revised nothing. Eek!

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  31. Relax, your book debut is going to be fabulous. We're all going to buy it, love it, and clamor for more! Wait, that isn't relaxing is it?!

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  32. I bet it is nerve wracking BUT sit back and enjoy it because YOU ARE GETTING PUBLISH! *happy dance*

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  33. Welcome to my world! Now my biggest fear is being unnable to repeat my first book's quality.
    And I'll plug your splash again on Friday.

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  34. Talli, you have so much to be proud of! Try to refocus your nervous energy on the next project.

    I have lots of fears about my writing, but I don't let them stop me from trying harder when I encounter a crook in the road.

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  35. I can imagine it's an emotional rollercoaster.

    But here's a thought. The book sounds absolutley great! Who wouldn't want to read it? Keep reminding yourself of all the positve feedback you've gotten... Then pour yourself a martini and celebrate your success!:)

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  36. I'm so excited for you and I'm sure all will go exactly as you hope it will on 1st December.

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  37. You could always write down the names of everyone who gives you a bad review and use them for certain characters in future books... ;)

    I think a little bit of fear is healthy, it means you'll always look for ways to up your game and continue to grow and develop as a writer.

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  38. i'm still at the point where i'm avoiding going past the tenth page, so its good to see what i'm in for once i stop procrastinating

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  39. Most terrifying? Whatever I'm doing at the moment when it comes to writing, Talli!

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  40. I think you are being very normal!! I'd worry if you were super duper calm and confident!!! :-)

    GOOD LUCK!!! Of course this is only the beginning of a wonderful publishing road trip!!! :-)

    The most terrifying of the writing process for me??? What if I'm wasting my time?? Eeeek!

    Take care
    x

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  41. Aw...*hugs* I SO get it. I'm sure I'll be the same if the day ever comes. But I also know you're going to do great. Believe it! :)

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  42. Talli, it will be fine. But I understand the doubt and the fear, but hey, if we wanted easy, we would still be sitting in offices waiting for the clock to turn 5pm.
    Even when I have had tiny bits published, I was so anxious about how people would react. You, will be a success, I just know it.

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  43. With each release, I'm worried about whether or not it will sell, if people will like it, hate it. It's something all readers face. But don't fret too much, you should be excited! And if you're still scared, have a glass of wine. :)

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  44. Oh Talli, you crazy gal! Here - have a martini to calm your nerves.

    You're doing something you love right? It's exciting and scary but you should be proud of all that you've accomplished so far!!;) xx

    My fear, well that I may not finish this first story before moving into another, and I really want to close one story before starting another. I'm kinda retentive like that sometimes. ;)

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  45. It's such a great achievement to have gotten to this point in your career, Talli, so yes do embrace it! (Easier said than done, I know.) I cannot wait to read The Hating Game and I promise it is next on my list once I finish my current read. And you are right, not everyone who reads it will love it, but, hopefully those people will give you constructive feedback so that you can take something from the negativity (if you see what I mean? not sure I explained that too well!!)

    Best of luck with this book, Talli! Although I am sure you wont need it xx

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  46. Thank you so much for all the wonderful comments, everyone. I wish I could keep you all on speed dial! :)

    Seriously, though, thanks for putting up with my stresses -- and helping me to keep calm!

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  47. It's always scary to expose something so personally important as writing to public scrutiny. I'm so excited for you, Talli. You deserve enormous success!

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  48. hang in there, girl! It's gonna be great. Most terrifying to me? This revise/resubmit request... :p

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  49. I'm so excited for you, Talli. I can't wait to read "The Hating Game"! Just try to relax and enjoy the anticipation. You've got so many more books in you, I know it. So keep looking forward but don't forget to ENJOY THESE MOMENTS. <3

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  50. Aww Talli... I am no stranger to anxiety, so I completely understand (except for the having a book published part... but I have an imagination!) It will all turn out okay. You have a ton of supporters, and we genuinely cannot wait to read your book!

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  51. I'm a bit of a coward - querying scares the pants off me!!

    Can't wait for your release! :)

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  52. Clarissa has some excellent tips that I never would have thought of!

    I'd say it's the showing of the writing to others -regardless of who they are or how I know them- that gets me the most.

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  53. Eeks! I can understand your anxiety. I would be a mess, too. Since you've gotten tons of good advice, I'll just say, Remember there are a whole lot of friends out here, wishing you well.

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  54. I'm so excited to read this book!

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  55. I think the best and worst things about writing is sharing our work. We love the praise and fear the criticism (even when we understand it), but in order to get either we have to let go and share.

    It's going to be GREAT! So excited for you!

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  56. Well I'm sure I won't be nervous *cough* Your release will be GREAT, your feedback will be FABULOUS and you will be a SUPERSTAR!

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  57. It'll be okay Talli! Enjoy the moment.
    (And really glad Amazon yanked that pedophile book, or your splash might've fallen short with so many boycotting the site.)

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  58. Hi Talli .. great .. keep going - you'll be fine .. and it's a wonderful achievement.

    Enjoy the time ..and fight through the 'to dos' .. all will be magically well .. have fun - Hilary

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  59. It is going to be OKAY. In four weeks time you'll look back over the previous week and chastise yourself for being so fearful!

    (((Big hugs)))

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  60. And you'll feel the same anxiety with book 2 and on and on. What a journey!

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  61. I suppose the plus side of this is that the anxiety will be gone in a few weeks once the ebook is released :) Then you can sit back and let the kudos roll in :D

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Coffee and wine for all!